2). After reading Chapter 10 in its entirety, answer the following question: Is there an event in your life that you find difficult to forgive? What is it? What makes it so difficult to forgive the other person? If you are not experiencing a difficult event now, describe a past event that you have found difficult to forgive.
There are a few events that have occured in my life that I find difficult to forgive. I would argue that the most difficult people to forgive are the ones that we care the most about; the people that we trust unconditionally. For me in my life, these people have been the one's who have remained constants in my life when it seemed that everyone else had failed or betrayed our realtionship in some fashion. In the past few years, I have experienced all three of the people that I trust the most betraying that trust. Two were in relationships, and one was with my mother. I find that all three of these situations are too involved and too personal to discuss in a public blog. However, I can say that I have yet to forgive any of them for the things that they have done, and this is something that I am actively working on.
Agree completely! People who we care about the most are the people who it becomes truly hard to forgive. It's because we put all our trust in them that they will not hurt us or do us wrong and when they do we don't really know how to react. I have came across the same situation with family members who are really close to me and it is really hard. I am currently in the processing of forging as well and what I've come to realize is that you either need to be on board or not. It takes more energy and frustration to go back and forth between wanting to forgive or not. Its all a mentality process of keeping yourself to move forward but realize what is best for you. Remember that you are the number 1 priority and take care of your feelings first. Don't rush into anything your not ready to do. Be strong!:)
ReplyDeleteHi Chatter Box, I thought you did a really good job with this response. Having a betrayal of trust in a relationship can be extremely painful and heart wrenching, but having a family member betray you I think would be worse. They say “blood is thicker than water” and when you have someone in your family betray you it can hurt more. I have experienced a betrayal of trust with a family member before so I can understand how difficult it must have been for you. Forgiveness can take time because you have to go through and process your feelings. But once you are able to forgive, you will be able to move on from that situation. Nice work on this!
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