I do believe that humans
have an instinct for conflict. I am the mother of a three-year-old little girl,
and I have extensive experience in working with very young children and
infants. Even before babies can speak, it is evident that they experience
conflict with others and with the world around them. It seems to me that humans
have an innate instinct to survive and protect what they believe to be in their
best interests. This mentality however, while helpful in preserving ourselves
as individuals, is not always copasetic with other peoples’ wants and needs.
I would also argue that our inherent tendencies
toward conflict do not make us either, more or less human. As it seems, all
creatures experience conflict with one another and it is clear to me that these
inborn behavioral tendencies toward conflict are not isolated only to the human
race. Conflict seemingly exists wherever there is more than one organism
competing to preserve their best interests.
Conflict can be a
valuable, but also, equally destructive asset. When conflict remains unresolved
or results in violence, it is destructive. When conflicting parties are able to
work through their differences by learning how to better communicate with one
another in approaching and hopefully solving their differences, conflict can be
a way to develop better social and problem-solving skills.